Although stranger abduction (where a stranger takes a child intending to keep or harm him/her) is rare, it is important to talk to your child about strangers. Often children do not have a clear understanding of who is a stranger or what to do in a potentially dangerous situation. Use these tips to help guide your discussion.
Make clear that a stranger is anyone your child doesn’t know well. It’s common for children to think that strangers look mean and scary. Explain that no one can tell whether a stranger is nice or safe just by looking at him/her, and children should be careful around all strangers.
Point out adults your child can trust. This will help your child better understand the stranger concept and know who to go to if your child needs help.
Provide your child with basic rules on keeping safe:
Have your child practice saying, “No!” to going with a stranger or taking something from a stranger by playing the “What If …” Game and doing role plays. Some scenarios you could discuss are:
If your child asks, “What if they get me anyway?”: Talk about your child’s feelings; Reassure your child that he/she is safe; Reinforce the safety rules; and Suggest your child follow his/her instincts.